I was discussing with my cousin the other day and he told me that he was a rancorous man. He would not forget what people did to him and would not hesitate to make them pay for it when he gets a chance. I don’t judge him. My heart used to be the same way.
When your feelings are hurt and you don’t know how to handle it, you will make sure those who brought the pain feel the same miserable way you do. This is what led me to take revenge on people, mostly family members.
I felt so offended that people I share blood ties with, would take so much heart in hurting me. They were family. They were supposed to love not harm me. They were supposed to uphold me not to undermine me. Therefore, I found ways to hurt them back, with words or acts of wickedness. My revenge plans worked but was I really the winner? Absolutely not.
I made my mouth spit disgusting words with the firm intention to destroy people’s hearts. I got down to their level and became as mean and bitter as them. I also wasted my time making those revenge plans... Where is the victory in all of that? There is none.
Oh. Maybe you I stood for myself and showed I was not to be messed up with. I am not sure this is how you earn your respect, so I don’t really have a point here.
Now that I am on a process of being the best version of myself, I let God show me the right way to be. And the Scriptures say: "Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written:
“It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord." - Romans 12:19
I believe that. I believe that we cannot get away with anything. We will have to reap what we sow at some point of time. People call it karma, I call God’s wrath.
I know, it’s easy to clap back and do repay evil with evil. It is always easier to do the wrong thing. But we are better people now, we can’t follow the easy way. We have to do better. We have to let go and let God. It requires self-control not to intent to destroy people’s feeling and a strong self-esteem not to be affected too much by the negativity.
It also requires love, in order to forgive our brothers and sisters, enemies and neighbors and faith to ask God not to be too harsh on them when He will be asking for receipts.
Therefore, stop taking revenge in your own hands and put it all in His’. God wants you to put everything on the altar (bitterness, anger, pain…) and He will take care of it. God is our avenger so let Him have His way. I mean, do you really think that your little sneaky revenge is worth half of God’s wrath?
Yeah, this is what I thought.